петък, 24 юни 2011 г.

About Sales-&-People...


Inspired by Jeff Hadden’s “Why Everyone Should Workin Sales – at Least for a While”, with the contribution of Olga Nedyalkova on LinkedIn (therefore in English)

Dedicated to my fellow colleagues at SeeNews  (2004-2008)


I have been preaching the idea of "why everyone should work in sales at least for a while" for many years now – giving it as advice to my friends and fellow-colleagues. Why? Because it helps. And it helps a lot to people to become better people. How? Well, here are my 6 reasons why and my 6 rules how...

1. One learns to ask the right questions.

There is a saying, which I truly follow: "say what you think and think what you say" (thus, beyond all, you might (probably) not get lost). Applied to the process of "asking questions", this could mean that we have to be careful of what questions we ask and how we ask them. Here is another one to support the above: you would always get the wrong answer if you ask the "wrong" question – and thus indeed, you reap what you sow... Cause & Effect... What goes around comes around... Cause & Effect... Simple!

By asking the right questions, we save a lot of time for wandering and ponedring, and avoid situations of potential confusions and misunderstandings with the others. Yet, asking the right question is not an easy task itself. Because... One has to think before they ask their question! And believe me, not many people are willing to think before they open up to speak, especially those who tend to undermine the importance of details.

2. One learns to be an "active listener".

Asking the right questions can easily be achieved if one is an active listener. There are GBs of information, definitions, discussions on this topic, so I’m sure everyone has their own say on it.

Here is however my definition of "an active listener" – someone, who is in the "here-and-now", bearing an open mind and an open heart, while taking a true and active interest in what the other is saying.

3. One learns to be truly open-minded and open-hearted

No prejudice, no judgement, no qualifications!

We, people, tend to qualify everything and to put it into small boxes, labeled for a more digestable use and for future reference. Yet we are a universe of our own, which cannot be easily understood, unless grasped in its whole unity or looked upon from a different, more objective, perspective.

The open mind and the open heart give a whole different perspective – one where there is more, and actually, unlimited space and air for the different and the diversity.

4. One learns how to be in the "here-and-now"

That’s probably the hardest part. But it’s a function of all of the above and if one follows them, being in the "here-and-now" just happens.

5. One learns that Life is the Path, rather than the goal or the destination!

If one has followed all of the above (1 through 4), they eventually come to understand that indeed Life is the Path, rather than the goal or the destination. What I learnt from Sales was that if I focus on the goal (get a contract signed), I lose it all. But instead, if I’m only in the here-and-now, being an active listener, I get it all. With or without a contract signed, I am able to take the best of the experience, make the best use of my precious time and learn about the other... and then to know.

6. Ultimately, Sales does help you to learn a great deal about your inner self.

And you do become a better person, where this change is conscious. Because how, if not through the others’ mirror, can we look at ourselves better? And becuase walking the Path goes along with all the scenery surrounding it – that scenery, which we are projecting while acknowledging and appreciating the other’s projection of the same.

In the end of the day, Sales (and business for that matter) is, as I say, nothing but human relations, where sales could be the instrument to go deeper in these relations.

Yours,
Señora GroupiDonna

P.S. I’ve known the state and the results of practicing all of the above, and I’ve witnessed the change happening to me... and inside me. I know that I have been in this state for a good deal of time, while doing Sales, and this is why I believe that the sales experience is a valuable experience – for life in general. And I know that once you have touched this sacred ground, it always stays within you. But in order to keep it up, it requires a lot of self-discipline and constant practice. Discipline – to follow the rules and pratice – to make it perfect. I haven’t done quite much of the latter, but now, while I’m writing this, I know I will. Thanks for following :-)

8 коментара:

  1. Dear Señora GroupiDonna,

    Thank you for sharing your idea about sales and people. It's been truly interesting to follow your thoughts on the subject.

    Sales has been a subject for me as well for quite some time. I have experienced sales in many different ways. From where I stand today, sales is that part in life which materialize our ideas about life itself. In other words, whatever your idea, it is useless if you cannot sell it, starting from selling it to yourself.
    Everyone is born as a sales. Kids keep the best of sales:
    1. they always ask the right question - WHY?
    2. they take true and active interest in what others are saying trying to find the one that matches their current wish.
    3. Being not that far experienced one will say that they are truly open-minded
    4. they live here and now just becuase they alwasy want things here and now.

    Hapily not everyone gets to 5 and 6. Maybe becuase sales is not the only way to get there.

    Anyway the bottom line of my message is that whoever you are, whatever you do, you do it with the idea to "sell" it to someone at the end. So no matter what you think about sales, you are all into sales, dears!

    :)

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  2. Indeed! And all so true! :-)

    Thank you, dear Madam/Sir, for this fresh new viewpoint! To be honest never thought of kids this way, although I do appreaciate them as great teachers - mostly so for the reasons you've pointed out so rightly.

    And indeed, to get to (5) and (6) - sales is not the only way, but just another instrument...

    Thank you for the positive thoughts once again! :-)

    Yours,
    Señora GroupiDonna :-)

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  3. Sales is a simple word, mostly understood as profession, however as implied above it is (or might be) a way of thinking and acting, applicable to many things in life, not only business. Whether we sell a product to a client or an idea to friends, it's the attitude that counts, the preparation and self-confidence, the soft skills and knowledge; that can make you achieve things in life, and becomes a self-fulfilling profecy. At the end you might not "do" things, but rather "only" know people...
    So, I fully encourage everyone to hone his sales skills and indeed remember that behind all it is just relation between people.

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  4. Dear Vesso,

    Thank you for your comment! :-)

    Indeed my major take-away following my personal experience is that the attitude is what really matters and counts - in just anything we're doing. And yes, any job, profession, or just any interaction is about human relations. What we take out of these relations depends, in my belief, mostly on our own attitude towards the situation and/or the others.

    Thank you once again for your comment and support! :-)

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  5. Dear Senora,

    If you are or could be a teacher, how could one become your student?

    Your sale philosophy strikes me as a little bit unusual. But it could be because I have been closed to sales people who see only money on their path or at the end of it (and of course the items associated with money).
    And one question: does sales have anything to do with power?

    All the best in your endeavours, wherever they might take you.

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  6. Dear Sir/Madam,

    I truly thank you for your kind words and am glad that I've provoked your interest with just a different point of view towards Sales.

    We people do tend to focus on the material things - the things we can see or touch, or hold, or possess - and this is pretty normal, simply because we want to explore the world in its physical presence and existence :-) That is in my view why you have witnesses this attitude amongst the sales people you mention.

    And yes, sales does have to do with power. But to me this is a different kind of power.

    That is the power to change as to the requirements of the job, but without letting go of your own values. The power to express yourself, to "stick to" yourself and your principles, and to be assertive, while coping with the differences. The power to stay focused on the process and the Path, rather than the result and the final destination. The power (ability) to free yourself from yourself, get into the shoes of the other one and try to look through their eyes. The power to accept everything that happens to you, incl. all those "No, thank you, I don't want to buy this" and still to be happy to keep on, while learning your lessons on the way.

    And the good thing about these kinds of power (abilities) is that the more you act like that, the more power you get, and the stronger you grow. And then you realize that... nothing is impossible :-)

    As to the teaching - I am really honoured to read your question :) I'd be happy to be of any help in regards, so kindly send me an email to info@groupidon.bg, and I will get back to you :)

    All the best,
    Señora GroupiDonna :-)

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  7. I just might write that e-mail Gerry but first I have to do some mind opening. Good luck with the business.

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  8. Sounds good to me :-)

    Cheers,
    Gery, a.k.a. Señora GroupiDonna :-)

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